A week after the infamous morning where Rob Kardashian unleashed his inner Khaleesi on Blac Chyna and I’m still reeling in all of this Kard-chyna drama. (also, trying to coin that nickname)
First and Foremost: There is a victim in all of this and her name is Dream Kardashian. This baby is innocent and deserves better parents, period. They both are shameful and this poor baby is going to suffer the consequences of googling her name one day, and the results are all their fault,
While most people are blaming Chyna because she is not the “perfect victim” and we live in Trump’s misogynistic America, I disagree with those particular points. She does not deserve to be exploited by a man because she was a stripper. Yes, she has exploited her body before, but, she was in control of her body in those moments. Not a man. And, yes, she is an opportunist who is trying to rise above the cyclical nature of her socio-economic past, and frankly, her ways aren’t unlike some other famous friends of hers…
It’s not a shock to any of us that Blac Chyna saw a major opportunity when she met Rob. Let’s be honest, Rob’s depression, paired with his black t-shirt, sweatpants, and sandals game is not exactly turning all the women on. (Also, please note- I am not commenting on his weight because his weight has nothing to do with overall attraction)
However, Rob showed an interest in Blac Chyna and she saw a way to further her career. It’s a simple equation, really:
Dating Rob= E! + flat tummy tea promos^2
His reality is an illusion and it was a world Blac was willing to live in for while. Paparazzi, more social media followers, more promos all came when her name became linked with Rob. Her business endeavors began to gain traction, and, she was being pictured everywhere. She was climbing the celebrity ladder. Unfortunately, a few weeks of unprotected sex (GUYS, WHY?! She’s a known stripper and you know he’s hiring strippers WHY WOULD YOU RISK YOUR BODIES LIKE THAT?!) resulted in a pregnancy, and the rest unfolded on a television series in which they were paid $5 million dollars for.
While most believe she intentionally got pregnant, I happen to think it was a mistake that freaked her out. Yes, on the one hand that baby will forever be taken care of by the Amazonian like clan, but, I don’t think she wanted this “relationship” to get this far. Especially to the point where now they’re tied into legal drama.
She is a victim: she did share those pictures privately with Rob. She did trust Rob with those pictures. (let’s be honest, ladies and gents- most of us have shared nudies, and it does need a lot of trust). However, she is also the bully in this situation. And, her plan has backfired on her in a big way.
She manipulated Rob, a known maniac depressive with SEVERE self-esteem issues that manifest to larger issues. His storyline has played out season after season of every Kardashian show and spin-off possible. His family and friends have struggled desperately to save Rob, and have only recently established boundaries for him to fix himself.
Unfortunately, Blac did not set up those boundaries. Instead, she sent him nudes, but, then would tell him it was over. She would have sex with him, but, then sent him videos of her with another man. If she really wanted to cut ties with Rob, she would have done so in a clean way. She wouldn’t have taken his money for the surgery, she wouldn’t have obliged when he asked for nudes, and she would have established boundaries sooner. Instead, she played the game with him until it backfired. And, now, the ever so opportunistic Angela is wearing a white suit to court with a powerful lawyer in tow. (while posing for snapchats in the parking garage)
Rob was wrong for sharing her nudes, simple as that. But, Blac Chyna was wrong for stringing him along. For toying with his emotions. For not being a real woman and saying “let’s co-parent, and nothing else” sooner. She is wrong for doing an interview before her court hearing. If she truly wanted the restraining order for the right reasons (a.k.a.- so her face isn’t all over the tabloids) she should have approached this quietly. She, being the mentally stable one in this situation, should have stood the higher ground. However, she is using all of this as yet another opportunity. She is trying to turn her loss around, and she’s doing so by attempting to control the narrative.
The real problem here is our insensitive culture to mental health and awareness. Rob Kardashian was wrong, a point that has been outlined numerous times. However, read deeper into his tweets and you’ll see that this mentally unstable person found stability with someone. He created a reality for himself where he finally had a nucleus family of his own. He was able to re-imagine a better life for himself, with Blac and Dream the cornerstones of those images. His heart was shattered, and, unfortunately for him, he is unable to process situations in a rational way. His actions were simply a reaction to being poked and led on for so many months.
Sharing her nudes violates trust and the law. Men should never be able to have that control over women. It’s prove that we still have a long way to go with gender and social norms.
However, we should never use our sexuality to manipulate someone. We should never succumb to “favor texts” and we should respect ourselves enough not to take part in sexual context if we’re not 100% committed to that person. (I’m not saying we should be engaged or married to participate in sexual endeavors, either. We should, however, not be “broken up” and still sending them)
She may not be the perfect victim, however, he’s not the perfect bully either.